Learning your self-worth

Confidence is a funny old thing. We often get our confidence from other people. Someone compliments our dress? We beam with pride. Someone notices we've lost a little bit of weight? Suddenly the soup diet seems worth it. But really everything is subjective. Different people like different things. That's what makes life worthwhile. You're never going to be everyone's cup of tea so why bother?

Your self worth isn't based solely on the number on the scales or how you look in a body con dress. Happiness isn't based on if you can fit into a size 8. It's based on what you can get out of this wonderful life we've been given. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to lose 20lbs and get back to my pre-20 year old weight. But I've also discovered the delights of the London food scene. So alas I'm not sure if that's entirely possible. We place far too much of our self-worth in other people. We thrive on how people perceive us. When really all that should matter is how you perceive yourself. No one should dictate how we feel inside.

We should strive to be the person we want to be. If people have something negative to say? Cut them loose. Don't get me wrong, it's hard. It's bloody hard. After being bombarded with magazines telling us what we can do to loose that stubborn five pounds and how life is much better when you're skinner, it can take it's toll on anyones confidence. Most people don't actually care what size jeans you wear, it's all in your head. So get that little gremlin out of your head. Start acting like a queen bee and soon other people will start treating you like one.

You should be proud to be you.


  1. Hell yes! I LOVE this post and the message you are putting out, I couldn't agree more <3

    Hayley-Eszti | www.hayleyeszti.com

  2. Love this post! So glad I saw this on a Friday as well :) I actually feel like I'm ending the week on a high and starting the weekend the same way. A truer word was never spoken x

    Juanita xx ~ LDN Girl

  3. I think I really needed to read this right now. I've been struggling with my own confidence crisis recently and need to train myself into this way of thinking, instead of wallowing in self pity and frustration.

    Such a wonderful post, lady! ♥

  4. This!! Everyone needs to hear this regularly. It took me a while but I think I'm there now xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua Italy

  5. AMEN! Although this is definitely easier said than done for me. I'm working on it though!

    - Elodie x

  6. This is definitely something I need to work on, well said! x

  7. I think I definitely don't praise myself enough! x

  8. Great post! thanks for sharing your thoughts!


  9. Sophie, as always you have a way at shouting out to me.
    I've battled confidence my entire life, and the self-worth I get it - I've lived it. The ugly and the good.
    I don't know what the answer is, I found when I lost weight I was showered with compliments and felt that 'boom' inside of me. I was glowing inside and out, but it was only ever temporary - I felt a huge sadness regarding food, enjoyment and living. Translation: I wasn't.

    It's a tricky one, a real game changer. I do think, as women we have a massive expectation on our shoulders. I hope one day, I can dismiss it and ignore peoples judgements, because I wouldn't be human if I didn't admit that some days I feel pretty *shit* about my self worth.

    x x x


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