Embracing the junk (in your trunk)

It's hard being a woman. There I said it. Seeing stunning, slim girls in magazines can play havoc with your self confidence. Everyone always has an opinion of how you should look and what is attractive.

I spent years wishing I was built differently. I always wanted to be straight up straight down but alas this wasn't to be. I was born a classic pear shape with my hips being the largest part of my body.

Despite knowing deep down I'm not fat, I'm constantly trying to better my eating habits and lose weight. I'm the girl always moaning about how many calories I'm consuming yet will always have that extra glass of wine or eat everyone's leftovers. I blame the former chubby girl inside who lost three stone at the age of 18 on Weightwatchers. I always see that girl in the mirror. I last a week, maybe two weeks of being a machine with my eating habits then I fall spectacularly. Usually when I get the chance to go out for dinner and stuff my face with three courses. I know I should exercise more and stop eating as much junk food.

But do you know what? I've started to embrace who I am. I'm in a healthy weight range for my height even if it may be at the higher end. My height helps me to carry off any few dreaded pounds that I might be carrying. I have a boyfriends who loves me just the way I am. I would love to lose half a stone but I also love to enjoy life - which to me means eating all the food. In the world. Swings and roundabouts.

At the grand old age of 25 I've finally worked out what clothes suit me and help my confidence grow. I like to wear crop tops as my stomach is flat and my waist is my smallest part. I find the 50's silhouette skims my hips and helps me appear much more slimmer than I am. The midi length is perfect to hide the top half of my legs. I would love to wear trousers but they just cling far too much to my child bearing hips doing me no favours. I ain't ever going to be a jeans and tee kinda girl. My bum doesn't agree with that!

It may be cliché but it really is true that you become more comfortable in yourself the older you get. You just learn to not really care any more. Life is far too short to be counting calories all the time. If you want to have that burger, stuff it in your face. Just try to maybe have a better day the next. It's all about balance. It wouldn't be any fun if everyone looked the same. I bet what you have in your eyes as perfection, someone else has you as perfection.

Fake the confidence until you have it my friends. You're beautiful just the way you are.


  1. I never wore trousers until about a year ago when I was persuaded to buy a pair by my friends. They took a lot of getting used to and I was very self conscious wearing them in public for a while. I wear them with a tunic or long cardi to "aid modesty" and I am sure this could work for you if you wish to wear trousers

  2. I lost just under 9 stone a few years ago and having spent my whole life before that point morbidly obese I found it so hard to see myself at my new shape. For a long time I couldn't see the change in the mirror, only in photos and that was despite dropping 5 dress sizes!

    Nowadays I feel far happier in my skin, like you I sit at the top of my healthy BMI but I'm happy that that is where I'm supposed to be. Life is too short not to eat cake. I'd rather be happy and healthy and enjoy treats than be stick thin and overly strict on myself :)

    Chloe x

  3. Love this post! I've always been skinny and people say 'you're so lucky' etc etc, but I don't really like it! I find clothes just hang off of me, and I wear unfitted things just to ensure I don't look like a skeleton. Hopefully, like you said, as I get older, I'll feel more comfortable x

    Dandy Girl

  4. This post literally could have been written by me. I'm exactly the same with the big hips and it means I have to go up a dress size on trousers and skirts which then don't fit my waist! I just love food though and I think it's so important to have a healthy relationship with it and understand what's good for you but still have a treat!
    Shopped and Dropped - a lifestyle blog

  5. Just remember everyone has their strenghts and weaknesses. Nobody can look good in absolutely everything (with the exception of maybe just kate moss). Be good to yourself and cultivate a balanced life. Seems like you're already on the right path!

  6. Love you Sophie! Such a fitty xx

  7. Love this post! I am coming to terms with the fact that I'm never going to grow any taller! x

  8. It's really good to hear from a lady who has learnt to feel comfortable in herself, as there can be so many insecurities as a young woman. You look absolutely gorgeous in that skirt, and thanks for writing such an honest, helpful post xx


  9. Aww, this is such a nice post Sophie. You look gorgeous. xx


  10. Good for you for embracing who you are girl! You have a gorgeous body and can pull off anything! It's all about confidence and attitude:)!

  11. you're so right; i recently turned 29 & am still only just getting to the point where i'm starting to give less of a shit about these things!

    becky :: accooohtrements.wordpress.com

  12. Sophie, you are beautiful, thank you for sharing this!

    Maria xxx

  13. You really do have such a lovely shape, Sophie. I'm so glad you've managed to feel comfortable in yourself. I've never found that, keep thinking that when I lose another pound or two it will be enouhg, but it never is so I keep going :(


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